Friday, September 28, 2012

Transitioning

Unicorn Farts
I know, I know...just as I promise a regular blogging schedule I go and disappear for almost a week without any notice.  What gives, right?  Well, my Friends, I've been busy.  Much busier than I thought I would be actually.  Surprised?  Yeah, I didn't think so.  I wish I could say that I've been knitting up a storm and have been churning out FOs galore, or that I've been sewing like a madwoman trying to make enough stock to do a decent shop update.  Um, yeah...no.  I'm not doing neither of those things.  No, what I've been doing is spending the past week helping my little Munchkin transition into preschool/daycare.

I originally wasn't planning on putting the Munchkin into preschool, as I was hoping to spend the time with him before he started kindergarten.  But you see, my little Monkey has a speech and language "disability" (re: he's a bit behind from others in his age group) and his Speech-Language Pathologist, as well as his Children's Behaviour Development team, has recommended that he be in preschool a few times a week.  Not only are transitions über hard for my little guy, but the Munchkin has never really been far from either me or Brett and so this is quite the huge adjustment for him.  The transition is 4 days long and the first day started out great.  Sadly, the second day was absolutely horrible and I can't say for sure who cried more - the Munchkin, or me.  My heart broke so many times to see how hard this change was for my Munchkin, and to see just how brave he was trying to be.  My heart goes out to all the sweet little Friends who tried to make the Munchkin feel better and like he belonged there.  Day 3 went a little better, and today...well, today I am at home for an hour...by myself.  I know!  I seriously cannot believe it either!  It took me a long time to leave and so I sat in the truck in the preschool parking lot knitting and trying to not hyperventilate.  One of the preschool facilitators had to push me out and told me the Munchkin was doing fantastic and had yet to cry!  I am SO proud of my little man!!

I will admit that I felt horrible for making my baby go to preschool and for having to deal with this massive change in routine all at once.  And yet I felt like the worse mother ever for not doing something like this sooner, since I could already see and hear a difference in the Munchkin's verbal skills after day 3.  I will also admit that I was scared shitless that extra help wouldn't be in place yet, as the Munchkin is on a wait list for an Autism Spectrum Disorder assessment, and therefore it is unknown as to what kind of extra help he'll need.  I know that there are a lot of other parents with kids who have Autism and that I'm not alone, but not knowing if my child does or does not have Autism kind of makes me feel very alone (and teary eyed!).  Knowing that the Munchkin's preschool is familiar with and has dealt with children of all disorders and disabilities has really put my restless mind at ease.  I know that all of this is great for the Munchkin and will help him in so many ways.  I just need to learn to let go of his hand so that he can fly away from the nest and become his own little being.

So cheesy.  Sorry!  Ok, before the waterworks start let's change the subject!  So since the days have been spent driving a ton (ok, for the record, all this driving is a lot for me!  I don't really drive much but Brett has been determined to boost my driving confidence.  Here's a little tidbit that you may not know about me: I only have 20% vision in one of my eyes.  I was in a major MVA that had fractured my skull that severed my optic nerve.  Since my blind spot really is blind, I get really nervous about driving.), consoling the Munchkin, and doing/getting things that a kidlet needs for preschool, I've been too poop to do anything else but pass out in bed before 10pm!  I have been taking the Munchkin out for little treats throughout the week, and so I have been able to squeeze in a few stitches here and there.  Mainly when we go to Starbucks for a little hot chocolate action.  As you can see in the photo above, I've been consoling myself with coffee, knitting, and Unicorn Farts.  Cause really, with an awesome name like that, who wouldn't want to fill their day with cotton candy flavoured magical lipbalm?

Ok, my time is up and I have to go pick up/check-in on the Munchkin.  Just hope my heart can handle it!!

10 comments:

  1. hang in there melissa! sorry to hear its been such a rough week, but itll of course be worth it in the long run :)

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    1. Thank you Jillian! ♥ It had only been a few days and I could already see a difference in the Munchkin! My heart just breaks to see him struggle through this change, but makes me so incredibly proud when I see him making such big leaps.

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  2. I know this is incredibly stressful, especially during a transition time, but try and see how great this will be for your little one. I know our emotions get the better of us, but if you can become a "Pollyana" and spin everything in a positive light, the happiness will eventually come back you to and the stresses will diminish. I can tell you as a pre-school music teacher, the sooner the child receives the additional help he needs, the exponentially greater leaps he will make. I have several students with ASD and something like music brings so much happiness and freedom to them. And because the classes are in groups, the students learn how to function socially and learn AND have fun at the same time. And some of my ASD kids are the brightest in the whole class. They absorb things like a sponge and LOVE the positive feedback and reinforcement that comes with their answers! Plus, the best thing about being in a pre-school setting is the the kids are still young enough to give and get hugs from the adults around them. I know often times we think of our little ones going from our warm homes and off to school as cold and sterile. In the right pre-schools (because they are definitely NOT all created equal) the kids are exposed to a great transitional mix of learning to be in a classroom environment while still getting warmth from the grown-ups around them.

    And I had a co-worker who's son HAD speech issues, but she got him the help he needed as soon as the doctor recommended it and now there are no identifiable problems with his speech (at least I could never tell.) This little guy was almost mute, (and in hindsight I guess we can attribute that to maybe intimidation with speaking?) and now he is doing just fine.

    Deep breaths, Mama! Keep calm and keep knitting!

    Ashley

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    1. Thanks so, so much Ashley! ♥

      As I mentioned in the last comment, my heart broke every time I saw the Munchkin struggle with a change/transition. But definitely made me so happy and proud when I saw him come out of his shell and overcome the hurdles as they came up. I have absolutely no doubts that preschool and being with other kids of his age will be more than good for him. I already see a difference in both his speech AND his behaviour!

      I think a lot of my fears were about the Munchkin not being able to handle preschool (but as one of his teachers told me, kids are very resilient and not only do they learn from the teachers themselves but from the other kids), and I feared that I was going to get a call from the preschool to tell me to pick up my child because he's horribly behaved and just cannot be teachable. I know those are crazy things to be scared about and would never happen! His teachers are absolutely wonderful and I was so glad to see that the Munchkin warmed up to them and built up that trust with them!

      Thank you for writing your side/the preschool teacher side of the story! :) Even though my breathing is back to normal, I'll try to remember to take deep breaths and to keep calm and keep knitting!! ♥

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  3. Oh hun - we are all there with you in spirit! You and little dude and Brett are doing GREAT! I remember the first week I took Z to daycare, it was really hard for me, but almost right away Max and I started noticing a difference in him. Now, he tries to squirm out of my arms when I go to drop him off, he's excited to see his little friends, and he gets to have all sorts of great experiences in a group setting. Well, it's the weekend now.. time to have some quality family time and rest a bit :)

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    1. Thanks Nat! ♥ I can't wait for the moment when the Munchkin races to the preschool and completely forgets that I'm even there! :)

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  4. Thinking of you and your Munchkin. You are a great mom - braving out to help and support him. Sending many cyber hugs :)

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    1. Thank you so much Christina!! ♥ And thank you for the cyber hugs! ;)

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  5. You are doing everything right! ; )

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    1. Thanks Evelyn!! :) Sometimes I question myself if I'm doing the right thing, but I know preschool is going to help the Munchkin out SO much!!!

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